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[Kara Aconoe]

This is the most primary thing about kids, preteens, high schoolers... heck EVERY age group that I can never get used to and can NEVER stand. Probably the reason I always tried to hang out or talk to people older than me; yet it STILL persists. Bottom line: people need to grow up, think before they act and speak, and stop just throwing each other out whenever it's convenient. Though at least that last one hasn't exactly happened yet but usually it does.

However after talking with both sides for the most part this isn't just childish but backhanded, at least from one side. I hate taking sides but I've made my choice on this one which I had from the beginning anyway. I just thought I could salvage it somehow and that the fight had been a bit more petty... but no, there was a low blow and I will not stand for a new friend breaking one friend from over five years now.

Basically... my point isn't quite to resolve this one or get advice on it as it's quite clear what to do and how to handle it. My question is kind of... what are all of your opinions on friend fights and handling them in your own way?

[Jeeves]

Well not having too many friends, I haven't had to deal with this kind of drama too much, but I do know a thing or two about it.

My way of handling it is the simple, boring way (but that's often the most effective, isn't it?): Stay calm, keep a clear mind. Urge friends to do the same. I'll let them vent to me a bit if they need it, but I won't facilitate too much talking behind people's backs. As an outside observer I have the ability to see the situation with more objectivity than either involved party, and I make use of that, keeping a fair mind.

These things are usually based on some type of misunderstanding(s), and it's really just a matter of figuring out people's true intentions and feelings.

[LalaRu]

These kind of situations used to really annoy me. Real friendships shouldn't resort to pettiness, but they do. Most of the time, when something was happening around me, I tended to keep a distance from both parties. It really just depends on the situation, though. I can't say I've ever walked away from a friendship, but I wouldn't think twice about it if something had changed my idea of who they are. If that makes any sense.

Sorry I can't be more helpful. :(